Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Saying NO to a Bully at Work




Saying NO to a Bully at Work

Bullying is rife in the workforce and in relationships where one person attempts to dominate another person and creates a win/lose situation. That's where one person feels ok and the other person doesn't. Relationships are about mutual respect, trust and communication and creating win/win situations. Here are a few tips.

  1. If you feel you Not OK, after a conversation you could be getting bullied
  2. Analyse what's happened: eg. what is a misunderstanding, something not done or finished or something else.
  3. If it is in your job description you probably need to do it.
  4. Be willing to negotiate and compromise if appropriate to create a win/win solution.
  5. Use assertive and professional communication to try to solve the problem
  6. If it still doesn't get solved, decide on your next step. eg. Do you need to discuss it with a supportive and understanding person.
  7. Honour your feelings (gut reaction or intuition) and if it does not feel right, or align to your values, don't do it.
  8. Get more help if you need it
  9. Stand in your own power and be proud to honour yourself.
  If you want more ideas and solutions visit www.difficultpeoplehelp.com for free ebooks and more tips.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Our Greatest Fear Poem - Made famous by Nelson Mandela



A poem  made famous by Nelson Mandela

 


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically, liberates others.


This poem is from the book the Course of Miracles written by Marianne Williamson.

 

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Tips & Quotes to Help Your Success

TIPS

In your quest for success negativity is rife.  It’s in the newspapers on television and in the media.  Keeping positive amongst all this negatively is a challenge.  I suggest you become selective with your time.  Here are a few tips.

1          Seek out the positive people, join clubs where people are achieving and learning.

 
My new mastermind group that took me to Sandra's Restaurant


2          Read positive books. Bookshops are full of great books, if you can’t afford them,    borrow them from friends, or join the local library.

3          Listen and read about positive stories. In the newspapers, magazines, television, only read and listen to success stories where people are helping and achieving.

 
My new friends outside Sandra's Restaurant in Texas


4          Read positive quotes. Listed below are a few I’ve collected. Subscribe to my weekly quote from my website.

 
QUOTES

Dreams are the stuff that make life worth living. Giving them up you give up all that truly matters.    Anon
 
Failure will never hurt you, but fear of failure may kill you.    John Lennon

People are like rubber bands.  They have on thing in common.  They both need to be stretched to perform.  Terence O’Hano

Remember it’s OK to get what you want in life.  Anon

 
Inside Sandra Bullocks restaurant with course members...

I had Gumbo (spicy fish soup) and deep fried Artichokes....Both delicious and 'Texan'.

The power is within you.    Anon

Wanting comes first, getting comes second.    Anon

 
FIRST I wanted to give Joe a book and get a photo...
SECOND - I did it!


The worst possible thing you can do is worry about what you could have done.  Lichtenberg

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare: It is because we do not dare that they are difficult.  Seneca

 
With Dr Joe Vitale and his new book At Zero. Attendees got a copy before his global launch.
 
 
Sharing the Self Esteem Test at Joe Vitale's Attract Money Live event in Texas.
 

Monday, October 28, 2013

TOP 13 WORKPLACE STRESS MOTIVATORS


      1. Role overload
      2. Role ambiguity
      3. Role conflict
      4. Lack of work autonomy
      5. Decision-making or lack of it
      6. Self-esteem & motivation
      7. A feeling of helplessness
      8. Uncertainty and urgency
      9. Poor management or boss
      10. Promotion & recognition
      11. Company politics
      12. Personnel challenges
      13. Personal challenges

Need More Help with workplace stress. Contact Janice for personal coaching email Email Janice
 

Monday, September 23, 2013

How to Improve your own and others Workplace Attitudes

 


1        It makes people happier.  Worldwide research has shown that when you are optimistic about life you are happier. You appreciate life through nature, your friends, associates, home and are happy to give back.


2        People live longer. As ‘feel good’ endorphins flow through your body, you are ridding your body of stress which is one of life’s killer diseases, therefore you are living to a riper old age.


3    People enjoy working with you more. Human nature is that we want to feel good, unfortunately many people don’t know how. The positive people with positive energy  are attract other likeminded people to think and act the same way.

 


4    You have more fun. Laughing is one of life’s free gifts that puts a smile on your face and jelly in your belly. As you go looking for fun it finds its way to you as people share jokes and you look on the bright side of life.
 

5    You don’t grumble when things go wrong instead try to fix it. Positive thinking has you   overcoming works hurdles quicker. Business is about solving problems. If you grin away at work you’ll get stuck in a downward spiral whereas if you sharpen your thoughts you will search for solutions. 

 

6    You quickly look for a positive action and achieve more. You way of thinking is that        solutions are just around the corner and you look for an answer to you workplace            challenges.

 


7    You have a higher productivity level. You know that once you’ve knuckled down to         achieve a goal you will feel good and your positive attitude and solution focussed thinking has you finishing your goals and searching for another.
 

8        You feel good.  Your work is an alignment of you to your desires. If you are in your dream career you will be enjoying your life work, helping others, creating, leading or engaged in some technical operation. If you love what you do, you automatically feel good.


9        YOU GET RESULTS because your enthusiasm and your thinking drives you to want to strive for more.