Fifty percent of the people in the world are searching for
happiness, success, confidence, money and love. At birth new babies were not
given a book with instructions and neither were most new parents, so everyone
bungled along as best they could. Teenage years and adult hood came along and
folk continued bungling along in life...searching for an elusive 'something'.
Many people fail to find it and wonder if happiness and success is possible for
themselves. In the movies and magazines it seems the celebrities and stars have
the answers, but everyone can learn from them.
Many successes stories start with a decision and commitment
to achieve something or follow a dream. Whether it's losing weight, saving
money, finding a partner or job, or happiness, it first begins with a negative
feeling or thought that really upsets you. You feel unhappy, unworthy, unloved
and so much pain around it, that you become entrenched in a rut in your life.
Everyone has different levels of not feeling okay but when your uncomfortable
feelings and thoughts dominate you day and night you can become depressed and
engage in activites that ‘shut out’ your negative thoughts.
But don't worry you
are not alone, every person has the ability to learn the skills to move forward
in life and it's a choice between A and B. Choice A you continues to live your
present life. Choice B you take steps every day to change your thinking to
create a new life for yourself. No-one has control of your thoughts except you,
so no matter what others say, your life is in your hands...or head.
It's like walking on a swing bridge when you imagine you
will fall off. You get caught in fear and the possibilities of what could go
wrong. However, when you finally overcome your fear and find the courage to
walk across it, your feelings of absolute achievement and ecstasy have you
elated. You bask living life on a high
as you are caught up in the feelings with adrenalin and endorphins pumping
through your body.
This is the same every time you try something you are
fearful in your life, so don’t delay your happiness. Here are three tips that movie stars use to
help you.
Find your passions
Discover something you are so passionate about and enjoy,
that life without it would seem unconceivable. Some movie stars come from the
life of hard knocks, unhappy families, lack of schooling, money and other
challenges...but their commitment to a goal overcomes all the hiccups on their
way to success. A sports or movie star does not become a success instantly. It
maybe years of starting to act at school, or playing a sport from a youngster that
has started the road to their dream.
With our 'New Zealand Has Talent' appearing on television we
are seeing this in action. All of these talented people have been learning
about their passion and gifts long before appearing on television
Life is a learning
curve - one step at a time.
No-one learnt acting, singing, computer, television,
microwave, mobile phone or anything the first time they used it. They went
through these three stages of learning.
1) You
think it is so difficult you will never master it without reading the manual
each time.
2) You
have been practising and realise this is possible to learn. You start to
remember partially how to use it.
3) After
more practise you master the skill. You are proud of yourself and can teach
others.
When we watch a movie, we view the final take, when the
actors and actresses may have had one or twenty attempts to film that scene.
Sometimes we are lucky enough to see some of the 'bloopers' and people have
forgotten the words, laughed or a number of other mistakes. So - perfect does
not happen the first time you attempt something.
Don't listen to
people who don't support you and put you down.
Don't let them upset you. These people have not got the
courage to try themselves and learn how to feel good when they achieve
something; instead they attempt to 'upset' you. If this happens they have
achieved their goal and feel okay. However, you have not achieved your goal and
feel not okay. Their emotional intelligent is low and they are may even by
jealous, so do not let them deter you.
In New
Zealand, there are many people who criticise
your attempts to try something new without even attempting it themselves. Our
country is known for the tall poppy syndrome which is where underachievers
constantly criticise people who are trying new ideas and achieving. The movie critics
are the same. They do not act themselves and are easy to criticise others.
Having confidence in life is a learning curve. Every time
you learn something new, you feel better about yourself. However, to enable you
to keep moving out of your comfort zone you have to control your thinking. As you
master each new skill into your life, your confidence grows.
If you are not sure what you are passionate about, write
down three things you would like to learn. Research them and decide what you
have the courage to learn and as Nike says: Just Do It.
Life is about choices. As children we lived under our parents
rules but as adults you need to learn new rules that suit your life today. The
world is a different place, so it is imperative you update your thinking. We do
it with our mobile phones and technology and it is vital you rewire your brain
as well.
You need to find the courage to work through your fear to
'get to the other side' or chose to stay living life moaning, grizzling,
eating, drinking, and unhappy. You attract other people who live their lives
the same and your life will be wasted as you live in a circle of negativity,
lack and under achieving.
Everyone has the same time frame, so find a minute a day to
write down a quote and read it and learn to recite it. Repeat it the next day
and slowly you change your thoughts. Alternatively there are free books and
resources in libraries on the radio or television, or attend workshops and
courses to learn more quickly to change your confidence levels and ‘get on
track’ in your life.
There is a famous quote" if it's to be - it's up to
me”. No body is going to 'learn' things for you. Your life is a big school and
if you want to be loved, successful, confident and happy you have to learn the
lessons. If a relationship doesn't work, learn more about yourself before finding
a new partner. If you lose your job or don't like it, learn what you want and
up skill yourself. If you are unhappy, learn how to be happy. The only thing
stopping you is your thoughts and if you change those, you will change your
life.
